Invest in a Real Friend

"Maybe mistakes are what make our fate... without them what would shape our lives? Maybe if we had never veered off course we wouldn't fall in love, have babies, or be who we are. After all, things change, so do cities, people come into your life and they go. But it's comforting to know that the ones you love are always in your heart... and if you're very lucky, a plane ride away."
~ Sex and the City

I am one of those lucky people who find it easy to make friends in general, I'm not shy at all but not so much the over confident girl either. I look at my friends and share with myself a silent laugh, it's who we are really that makes me chuckle without sound, so I permit a little smile as I watch them and come to realise how we are all different yet alike in different ways.

I intermittently try to remind myself that not all these people I call friends are in essence my friends; some are mates and others just buddies I make along the way, so with that passing thought I then ask myself what is a friend to begin with? and when do you start calling him or her 'Friend' without feeling chancy? Is it after they hold you hair up as you throw up in a club after one too many drinks, or when you know positively that you can fully rely on them? I don't know. I have friends that I love to bits yet I wouldn't be so sure about relying on them with certain things...lol...no seriously. Yes, we will do each other good favours and deeds but as to who is good with what is a known factor, maybe that's also a colossal part of it...knowing these people that well. Not one person can make it without help in life and living is so much luscious when you find and have friends that make you feel understood, needed and safe.

I can go for weeks without calling yet know that nothing has changed, it's living separately without growing apart, always keeping each other in the loop with new found jobs, boys and ordeals. Laughing about the inevitable things, trying to dodge those consequence bullets together and crying over short lived romance, Gosh, even splitting a lavish meal bill with our shoe string budgets. It's crucial that one invests in a real friend if making many isn't your attribute. I have my beautiful girls and awesome guys; people that I am confident will last me a life time, the kind of crazy lovelies that I created memories and shared the best and worst days of my life with. I couldn't be more blessed if I should say so myself!
And say... THANK YOU B%#2@$!

Hearted.